Mark coined a new term that day – ‘flambolic’. He was
talking about the Mexican Day of the Dead, and I think it just came out wrong
but I bet it sticks. What a great word! I will use it regularly.
As well as Mark’s entertaining and informative talk, we were
treated to an exhibition of photos by Colin Gray (currently on display at the
North Edinburgh Arts Centre) -
http://www.northedinburgharts.co.uk/exhibitions.php
) which gave a quirky and moving account of family life with his late parents.
Then, straight from the poet’s mouth, we heard ‘A Recipe for
Whisky’ by Ron Butlin, - currently on the Scottish Poetry Library website here
(
http://www.scottishpoetrylibrary.org.uk/poetry/poems/recipe-whisky
). The first line – ‘Wring the Scottish rain clouds dry…’ sets up a beautifully
understated Scottish metaphor for grief, and ends in another Scottish
expression – ‘Another glass for absent friends. Pour/ until the bottle’s done./
Here’s life! Here’s courage to go on!’
Finally we were invited to write messages on pennants to
remember people we had lost. A photographer was on hand to catch the moment and
as my photo has been sent to us, and is a million times better than any photos
I ever take, we’re including it here. This is me, toasting my absent friend
Tillie.
Good Life, Good Death, Good Grief have been using this
method for a while of enabling people to speak/write their loss, and I’ve seen
displays of these and found them very moving. But this was the first time I had
ever made my own pennant, and I have to say it was a very satisfying experience.
As the old saying goes – ‘We don’t get over our losses by forgetting people: we
get over by remembering them.’
On 18th November, our associate Joan Adam and I
are running a day event in Edinburgh on Understanding Grief and Loss, aimed
primarily at pastoral visitors. I believe we still have a few places available
so do get in touch if you fancy it. We will strive for the flambolic, but it
may just end up shambuoyant!
